Turn Her On

You've got a good idea how to touch and caress a woman once she's in your bed, but for you it's getting a woman into your bed that seems to be the big hurdle.




No one wants to hear about your ex-girlfriend and how she's going to be nominated for sainthood. We also don't want to know that you think she's the real-life version of Cruella De Ville. If you're over 35 and still living at home with your mom, that's a big red flag for her and no one wants a boyfriend with bad table manners. They're so easy to learn.

But what turns a woman on... the answers are surprisingly simple.

Here's just a few that I've come up with:

1. Ask questions about her.

Nothing is a bigger turn on for a woman than a man who listens to her.

Communication can go a long way toward deepening the intimacy you feel between the two of you and there's no better time than the present to start asking questions and find out what she's thinking. Show concern about her family and pets, and express an interest in her hobbies and passions. You should also have things of similar concept that you can also throw into the conversation.

2. Be reliable.

If you say you're going to come over to pick her up at a specific time, and you're not there within fifteen minutes of that mark, you better be trapped under something heavy, or make a phone call to explain your absence and provide a more realistic idea of when you will be free to see her.

You don't have to always be available, but when you say you can be available, you should be. Excuses are a big turn off. Apologizes normally hold very little weight.

3. Send sweet texts.

Don't send a picture of your Johnson to a woman who hasn't met it in person and expect her to want you more. Women are seduced by words, and not pictures. Of course, once you guys are getting hot and heavy, you should send dirty texts as often as possible. That's a turn on!

4. Whisper in her ear.

A woman's ears are one of her erogenous zones. When you're having sex you know that you can make her moan by nibbling and licking on her lobes. Press your lips close to her ear and breathe gently. Be bold and be flirty with your words.

5. Always smell like you just got out of the shower.

Men and women are attracted to each other by scent, and just because she says she wants a man who "smells like a man" doesn't mean she enjoys the smell of your sweat after a heavy work-out. She's most likely talking about how you smelled on your first date, when you showered and wore cologne. Make a habit of smelling like you just stepped out of the shower. She'll find you absolutely irresistible.