Allow me to remind anyone and everyone who needs to hear this.
No one is entitled to access to me or anyone, no exceptions.
Some people believe that people are entitled to access to us by default unless they do some egregious slight that then justifies them being taken out of our lives. It's not the case.
Access to YOU is granted by YOU and ONLY YOU. You get to decide how someone earns it.
Access to me, for instance, is granted on some pretty basic things but the main ones (especially recently) have been...
- Is this going to be a positive experience?
- Is being in this setting going to require "after-care" (physically or emotionally)?
- Are you safe? Do you care about consent? Do I feel my boundaries will be respected?
