Sunday, October 7, 2012



Causing a loss of self-respect; humiliating.
Our culture is concerned with matters of self-esteem. Self-respect, on the other hand, holds the key to achieving the peace of mind we seek. The two concepts seem very similar but the differences between them are crucial.

To esteem anything is to evaluate it positively and hold it in high regard, but evaluation gets us into trouble because while we sometimes win, we also sometimes lose.

To respect something, on the other hand, is to accept it.

Previously, I spoke about women who say that sexy Halloween costumes are degrading. As you can see above the word degrading means to lose self-respect.
How is a Halloween costume making me accept me less?
The person with self-respect simply likes her- or himself. This self-respect is not contingent on success because there are always failures to contend with. Neither is it a result of comparing ourselves with others because there is always someone better. These are tactics usually employed to increase self-esteem.
Self-respect, however, is a given. We simply like ourselves or we don't. With self-respect, we like ourselves because of who we are and not because of what we can or cannot do, not because of what we have or don’t have, not because of what we wear or choose not to wear.
So, as long as we are being true to who we are, there is no way that our attire could degrade us. You may judge the girl who has decided to be a naughty nurse, but if she is happy and does not change the way she views herself then the fact that you disapprove really has no bearing on her.

Thus, she's not degrading herself. Maybe you're degrading yourself because she's in a sexy costume?
                                               What about YOU are YOU not accepting?

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