The Zooming Maniac Effect

 There are so many different sides of life that things can easily suffer from miscommunication. I'm sure we all have that one person who is no longer in our life because of some stupid fuck up in the words or the silence. So much can be said when nothing is said at all. People get left on read and draw their own conclusions because only their life is real. Only their life matters. Only YOUR life matters, right? Lets sonder, shall we? Are you in a place where you're willing to receive the information that EVERY person you meet has a life is complex vivid and chaotic as your own?

Is there a reason you're like this? Yes. You're human. I know, I was devasted when I found out too. 

Life comes at us fast and sometimes you have to choose whether you dodge or you take the hit. Is it worth the fight? Is this the hill you want to die on? We have loads of phrases that personify the "fight or flight" mentality because that is a purity in our body if not our soul. It's completely separate from our humanity. 

You were with your friends, partying
When the alcohol kicked in
Said you wanted me dead
So, you showed up at my home, all alone
With a shovel and a rose
Do you think I'm a joke?

Sometimes we lose people not because of the people themselves but the choices they make and the people they all have power over their lives. There are lots of stories. Lots of "what if"s. We want to imagine a life where there's a happily ever after and there isn't. You can do everything right and still lose. 

Wait.

What?

That's not the American dream! That's not what anyone signed up for... the social construct says that if I play by the rules and fit into this itty bitty box then I get a white picket fence, 2.5 kids, and a happily ever after. What do you mean that's all a lie?

You just went too far
Wrecked your car, called me crying in the dark
Now you're breakin' my heart
So, I show up at your place right away
Wipe the tears off of your face
While you beg me to stay

It's the American dream, but its more important to think of it as a shared delusion. It even has a term "The Mandela Effect".  It refers to a situation in which a large mass of people believes that an event occurred when it did not. Did you actually have an agreement with anyone? Is the social contract real? Or is it all an assumption that the poor believe that the rich are good people and are on the same team? We were told a lie by the voices in our head and it is making our skin crawl...

Is this the matrix? Are we finally waking up and realizing what we've created in a dirty bathroom with the lights out?

Maybe...