Sex Work Stigma & My Blessing

So many girls are talking about how they "came out" or were "forced out" to their family. I never really did. Both sides of my family are referred to as Wasps or at least they are committed to being perceived as such.



Which for those that don't know.

White Anglo-Saxon Protestant: a person descended from N European, usually Protestant stock, forming a group often considered the most dominant, privileged, and influential in American society.

What this means is we don't talk about sex, we don't talk about our jobs, we don't talk about anything "offensive" or where someone could differ in opinion.

I believe my family knows what I do because my uncle found my social media, and my grandmother once sent me a page of "childhood" photos and in the bundle was one of my website headers. It's not something we talk about. My family pretends that I just have a "normal" job because that's how they like it. Much like when I was in high school & got my face pierced they just told themselves that my friends pressured me into it and that's why I felt I had go keep it. "Fitting in" is a good excuse.

Once my husband's aunt said, "I found your porn", I simply raised my eye brows and said "yea?" And then she when on to talk about my breast feeding pictures but I've always thought that that was her way of saying "I know" and seeing if I was ashamed.

My stigma has never really effected me because of these facts and because I've never been much of a "people" person. However, my stigma has effected my husband. He's lost contact with his brother and several friends because they couldn't believe he'd "let" me do this. The idea of that boggled his mind because we're a team. We support each other completely.

This may not be the ideal situation but thankfully the people that don't like my career but do love me keep their opinions away from me and those that don't love me and don't like my career have pleasingly disappeared. I don't know if my husband would feel the same because he lost more valuable people than I did. His brother & his best (childhood) friend.

I've read countless stories on twitter and heard in person from sex workers about how their families reacted when they found out. Some had a choice in how their family found out, and some didn’t. Im not sure how my family found out, my husband told his but I considered myself blessed that it wasn't horrible or scaring. We don't have any excess stress from family because of it, we actually have less. They leave this pair of black sheep alone.